Any Muslim that denies that terror is a part of Islam is kafir [an unbeliever]

So claims the militant Islamic organization al-Ghurabaa.
On his talk radio show the other day, a frustrated Michael Graham made the following statement:

Sadly, as it is constituted today, Islam IS a terrorist organization, but the good news is that the major of Muslims–who don’t support terror–can change that and take back their religion.

Following that remark, a major campaign was launched by CAIR, resulting in Graham’s suspension.
Now CAIR wants Graham fired.
Little Green Footballs and Mens News Daily have more, and Graham elaborates in a column here.
From Tim Blair, there’s this bit of unfriendly logic — that if a non-Muslim is friends with a Muslim, then the Muslim isn’t a Muslim:

There?s no such thing as a Muslim having a non-Muslim friend, so a non-Muslim could be your associate but they can?t be a friend. They?re not your friend because they don?t understand your religious principles and they cannot because they don?t understand your faith. (Via Glenn Reynolds.)

Trying to analyze this thing is like walking a tightrope. There’s so little room for anything resembling even dialogue, much less compromise — even over the most basic definitions.
Islam, it seems, cannot be called anything — whether moderate, radical, religion of war, or religion of peace — without offending lots of Muslims (and plenty of non-Muslims). It isn’t so much a question of what the right answer is. There may be no right answer, but being right isn’t the point.


I mean, what’s really to discuss?
If moderate Muslims aren’t Muslims and aren’t allowed to be friends, what’s to do?