and I like this one by KC Tunstall
This was brought on by Wretchard’s dissertation on love.
Dante believed that loneliness was the memory of happy times lost. And for perhaps that reason, the demand for love will always be greatest among those who have only heard rumor of it and glimpsed it, fleetingly, but once.
The comment section is especially good. This comment:
She could have had whatever she wanted from me, and destroyed me.
Caused this reply:
Love is very dangerous. It requires more trust than most are willing to give. To bare your secrets. To bare your soul. To admit your price.
You see the results all too often – “(s)he treated me like dirt and I was happy to accept it.”
The net? Most folks are looking for advantage. Which puts the folks in love at a serious disadvantage. Gibran had the answer – love anyway – pay the price.
Or Alfred Lord Tennyson: ’tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all’.
I’m pretty lucky. The love between me and the first mate just keeps getting better (with the usual hitches – we are dealing with humans here) over time (37 years so far). As usual I’m a little late to the show.
Cross Posted at Power and Control
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6 responses to “Loving”
Thanks for posting that cover, Simon — great stuff, hadn’t heard it before.
“Tangled Up In Blue” is one of about 10 Dylan songs that I regularly hear and think: yeah, that’s the best song he ever wrote. Time to go read Wretchard’s post now.
About that Wretchard piece (which is brilliant, as he is, at is best): The comment section is especially good, as you say — if you’re prepared for the sorrow.
I was stopped dead in my tracks by one of the first few, commenting on the allusion to Fitzgerald. It actually starts, “This isn’t particularly apropos to the subject” — but then the post completely belies that thought. The commenter quotes a line from another Fitzgerald story, for (he thinks) the sheer beauty of it:
There are all kinds of love in the world, but never the same love twice.
But that’s exactly the point of the post, isn’t it? Or, rather, the point is that we are always looking for the same love twice, so that this time we can get it right — but that is just what we cannot have. As Wretchard puts it:
How can people make such blunders? Well they can if they’re looking to make them. The Indian Matrimonial website says “people always try to overcome their mistakes. Nobody wants to repeat mistakes everytime,” and offers them a chance to “marry again” through the services of their website. But in reality maybe the opposite is true. Perhaps people don’t want to break with an unhappy past so much as to relive it; to return to some point on the road to ruin and make the one change, the single alteration that would make it all turn out differently.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
DJ,
I especially like how KC thick with the Irish sings with a very Midwestern Twang.
Penny, DJ,
When I found out that I was always attracted to the same woman it was quite a revelation. Oh. They differed in details but the essence was always the same.
that’s KT, not KC – unless you’ve stumbled upon new talent…